University is often described as one of the best times of your life – new friends, independence, and endless possibilities. But what happens when that exciting chapter is overshadowed by a breakup? Whether it was a long-term relationship from home or something new that blossomed in your new city, breakups can hit hard. And when you’re sharing a flat, attending the same lectures, or bumping into mutual friends, it can feel impossible to escape the reminders. Here’s how to navigate a breakup at university while looking after yourself and keeping your studies – and your happiness – on track.
Let yourself feel it
First things first: it’s okay to be upset. A breakup is a loss, and it’s normal to grieve it. Give yourself permission to feel sad, angry, or confused. Pretending everything’s fine often just prolongs the process. Talk to a trusted friend, go for a long walk, or write down how you feel. The key is to let your emotions move through you rather than get stuck. If you keep everything bottled up, it never ends well!
Lean on your support network
One of the best things about university life is that you’re surrounded by people who care. Don’t isolate yourself – reach out to your flatmates, course friends, or resident assistants. If you live in student accommodation, there’s likely someone around who’s been through something similar. Even a quick coffee or a chat in the communal kitchen can make a big difference.
And remember, universities usually offer free or low-cost counselling services. If it was an especially bad or traumatic breakup, talking things through with a professional can help you make sense of what’s happened and give you healthy ways to move forward.
Redefine your space
If you’ve shared accommodation or common spaces with your ex, those familiar spots might feel heavy at first. Rearrange your room, buy some new bedding, or decorate your space with photos and reminders of what makes you happy. Making your environment feel truly yours again can be a powerful step in reclaiming your sense of self. Make new memories in these spaces, and it will start to feel a lot easier!
Reconnect with YOU
Breakups can leave you wondering who you are without the other person. Use this time to rediscover your own interests – join a society or club, try a new sport, or volunteer locally. Keeping busy doesn’t mean ignoring your feelings; it’s about building a life that excites you again. Solo dates are a wonderful way to move forward.
Take it one day at a time
Healing isn’t linear. Some days you’ll feel great; others might feel like a setback. That’s perfectly normal. Be gentle with yourself, and remember that every step – even the small ones – is progress.
Look ahead
University is just one chapter, and this moment, as painful as it feels now, will pass. Surround yourself with positive people, throw yourself into new experiences, and trust that something better is waiting.
And if you’re living in student accommodation, don’t forget: you’re never really alone. Your community, friends, and even the friendly face at reception are all part of the support system that can help you through.
