Moving into student accommodation is exciting, but it can also feel a little strange. You’ll be in a new space, sharing it with people you’ve never met before, while navigating the demands of your studies, budgeting and independence. Building a good relationship with your flatmates can really help with making your first year at uni more enjoyable!
Introduce yourself straight away
It might sound obvious, but making the first move can make a big difference. Say hello when you see someone in the kitchen or common area, ask where they’re from or find out what course they’re studying. Keep your door open while you’re unpacking, and let people know you’re open to making friends! Everyone is in the same boat, and chances are your flatmates are just as nervous about meeting new people as you are.
Spend some time with your flatmates
You don’t need to organise an elaborate flat bonding session – but something simple, like getting a takeaway, watching a film, going to a university event or grabbing a coffee together, is a lovely way to get to know the people you live with. If you’re all busy, even sitting in the kitchen and chatting for 20 minutes can help you get to know each other.
That said, don’t worry if your housemates aren’t your kind of people. Being friendly and respectful is more important than becoming best mates!
Talk about the important stuff early on
One of the easiest ways to avoid arguments is to agree on a few basic house rules as soon as you’re all moved in and settled. Who’s going to take the bins out? How often should the kitchen be cleaned? Is everyone happy sharing things like washing-up liquid or toilet roll? You might feel awkward bringing these things up at first, but a five-minute conversation can prevent much bigger disagreements later.
Respect shared areas in your student accommodation
The kitchen and communal areas belong to everyone, so try to always leave them as you found them. Nobody wants to discover someone else’s dirty plates piled up in the sink or food left all over the worktops. You should also be mindful of noise, particularly late at night. Your housemate might have an early lecture, an assignment deadline or simply want to sleep. Try to afford everyone the respect you’d want for yourself, and it should be fairly easy.
Be a considerate flatmate
Small gestures can go a long way. If you’re making a cup of tea, ask if anyone else wants one. If someone is having a difficult day, check in with them. If you accidentally make a mess, clean it up. You don’t need to become the flat’s resident parent, because that will only stress you out, but treat your housemates with the same consideration you would your friends or family.
Don’t let problems pile up
Even the best flatmates will occasionally get on each other’s nerves. Maybe someone keeps leaving dirty dishes around, plays music too loudly or keeps using your food. Instead of letting the frustration build, have a calm conversation about it. Avoid being aggressive or making it personal – instead, explain what’s bothering you and try to find a solution that works for everyone.
Most importantly, remember that living with people is a learning experience. You’ll all have different routines, personalities and habits.
You don’t need to love everything your flatmates do. By communicating, respecting each other and making an effort to be friendly, you can create a flat that feels comfortable, welcoming and a lot more like home…
